Hello my Yoga loves I guess, like everyone else, I have sort of been hiding under a rock for a few weeks… Ok 2 months, but I just didn’t seem to be anything to write about that hasn’t been said by someone else and probably said better. But as restrictions due to COVID-19 begin to ease I have had many questions as to when I will reopen the Center.

But first let me ask how are you doing? Its been a Helleva ride since the beginning of February hasn’t? First the COVID virus, then everything gets locked down and then as if that wasn’t enough the horrible storms and the tornado roared in forever changing the landscape of our beautiful county and changing the inner landscape for so many individuals. But here we are slowly moving into our new normal. I am certain that your ‘new normal’ is different from mine, and mine is different from someone else’s. I have not been on social media as much lately, I get on to post a few things about work or puppies or kittens or something, mostly to see how all of you are doing, but for the most part I don’t read or scroll the newsfeed much, its sad, depressing and damned infuriating if I’m being honest. The division between us humans is getting scary, what is it about humans that makes us think ‘our way’ is the only right way? Why?

Why when faced with something they don’t believe in or that they don’t totally support, do humans have to be so visceral, so antagonistic?

Why?

Why do we seem to think that a FB meme is the truth just because it supports our particular narrative? And why do we fail to do the right thing, and before we post something so very inflammatory, why do we fail to do the research. Look at many different sources and verify that its correct and reasonably truthful, before posting.

Why?

Why is it necessary to beat up someone or tear them down to get your point across? Is it because you really don’t have a valid argument? Why call names, why create even more hate by spewing garbage.

Why?

Why not instead seek out the truth, read and research and find things that uphold your position that do NOT include hate speech or blatant falsehoods. Why not learn the noble art of debate, why not participate in friendly discourse?

Why not learn how to think for ourselves?

Why not?

Carl Sagan wrote, at length, about critical thinking and while he was mostly writing at the time about superstitious belief, I think we need to look closely at what he called “The Fine Art of Baloney Detection” and learn how to fine-tune our bullshit detectors. We seem to have forgotten how to think for ourselves and we most definitely have forgotten how to be kind.

Here are Carl Sagans rules for Baloney detection.

  1. Wherever possible there must be independent confirmation of the “facts.”
  2. Encourage substantive debate on the evidence by knowledgeable proponents of all points of view.
  3. Arguments from authority carry little weight — “authorities” have made mistakes in the past. They will do so again in the future. Perhaps a better way to say it is that in science there are no authorities; at most, there are experts. ****I would add here that ‘Authorities’ are also Social Media ‘Influencers’, just because you see it on the internet does not make it true. ..again for the folks in the back Just because you see it on the internet does not make it true…CPM
  4. Spin more than one hypothesis. If there’s something to be explained, think of all the different ways in which it could be explained. Then think of tests by which you might systematically disprove each of the alternatives. What survives, the hypothesis that resists disproof in this Darwinian selection among “multiple working hypotheses,” has a much better chance of being the right answer than if you had simply run with the first idea that caught your fancy.
  5. Try not to get overly attached to a hypothesis just because it’s yours. It’s only a way station in the pursuit of knowledge. Ask yourself why you like the idea. Compare it fairly with the alternatives. See if you can find reasons for rejecting it. If you don’t, others will. *** I underlined that part… the pursuit of knowledge, I’m sad to think it’s a dying art CPM
  6. Quantify. If whatever it is you’re explaining has some measure, some numerical quantity attached to it, you’ll be much better able to discriminate among competing hypotheses. What is vague and qualitative is open to many explanations. Of course, there are truths to be sought in the many qualitative issues we are obliged to confront, but finding them is more challenging.
  7. If there’s a chain of argument, every link in the chain must work (including the premise) — not just most of them.
  8. Occam’s Razor. This convenient rule-of-thumb urges us when faced with two hypotheses that explain the data equally well to choose the simpler.  ***Choosing the simpler does not mean choosing the most simplistic, just because it explains or supports your narrative. CPM
  9. Always ask whether the hypothesis can be, at least in principle, falsified. Propositions that are untestable, unfalsifiable are not worth much. Consider the grand idea that our Universe and everything in it is just an elementary particle — an electron, say — in a much bigger Cosmos. But if we can never acquire information from outside our Universe, is not the idea incapable of disproof? You must be able to check assertions out. Inveterate skeptics must be given the chance to follow your reasoning, to duplicate your experiments and see if they get the same result. 

Stand by your truths, but there is no need to stand on another human’s throat to prove that your truth should be theirs. I believe there is room in this world for lots of truth, many different beliefs, and certainly many varied opinions. But let’s remember to leave room for kindness.

Om Shanti

Cheryl

 

Motivate me baby

This second, we can sit down and do our work.”
― Steven Pressfield, 

Ok so now that I have a shit ton of time on my hands, apparently all the stuff I told my self I NEVER had enough time to do … well, guess what it was all a lie. I do have time and it still isn’t getting done…. It took me 4 days to sit my butt down to write this. So, what was I doing for 4 days, well the pantry looks amazing and I have managed to re-watch The Agents of Shield, again, all 6 seasons. Yea…. Oh and I am CRUSHING Candy Crush.

So, what is it about motivation? Or what causes a lack of motivation? And is it motivation we are all lacking? Yea you know I’m not the only one.

Actually, I am motivated I really am, I want to write, part of me has always been a writer, my earliest memories are of having a pencil and paper in my hands and words, like butterflies, flying through my mind looking for somewhere to land. My mother was a gifted artist, a painter and a deeply creative person and memories of my childhood are of being given art lessons from a young age. Well, I wasn’t given the lessons; it was more like I was drug kicking and screaming to the art studio on Brainerd rd. and to the Hunter Art Gallery.  To be clear I have a deep appreciation and love of the visual arts, I just can’t draw a straight line. So, every time mom would give us paper and crayons or pencils on a rainy day I doodled and wrote stories. Mostly I wrote because even my doodles stank.

But these days I can’t seem to find my voice, and I sure as hell can’t get it down on paper. But I’m working on it. I’m looking for the push, that internal drive to get up and do….anything, something.
I know I’m not the only person that feels this way. We all have plans, to-do lists, great ideas that never see the light of day, unfinished projects and still we have periods where nothing gets done.

It is possible that Motivation isn’t the problem that it could be a deeper issue, instead could it be… Dun Dun Dun Duuuun… Procrastination!

Procrastination is a complex psychological problem and it has been studied extensively and it can’t be rendered down to a simple solution. It’s not laziness!

And it’s been my experience that motivation is a manifestation of procrastination. We have a tendency as humans to look outside ourselves for answers. Throughout history, we have looked to religion and science to answer complicated questions. And “looking for motivation” is one way to think we are solving the problem of getting shit done.

This might be one person’s thoughts about losing weight….” If only I was motivated, I want to lose weight, but what is my motivation, well Summer is coming, and I want to look good in that bathing suit.” But then summer arrives, and nothing has changed and we think it is because we lacked motivation, or had the wrong motivation. Really what we did was kept putting off making the necessary changes to achieve our goals.

Procrastination!

Why do we do that? Again, it is complicated, and it is different for everyone, Psychologists have terms for different behaviors that lead to procrastination. The biggest for me are Task Eversion, Fear and arousal procrastination (which sounds better than it is) for me arousal procrastination means I work well under pressure, give me task, give me a deadline and 5 mins before its due I’ll throw down and boom, done. Here’s the problem with that it might get done, and it might get done “ok” but trust me it could have been better. Also, self-imposed deadlines don’t work.

And know that there are many other reasons people procrastinate: indecisiveness, overwhelm, stress, depression, goals that are too abstract, anxiety and perfectionism just to name a few.

And now that we are all faced with this new normal, of social distancing and being isolated at home, at least for a while, how can we deal with not getting shit done, especially now that we have the time. How can we deal with our procrastination? Here we are stuck at home and we can’t get the laundry done or clean out the garage, forget the big project for work. What can we do?

Try to figure out what your procrastination issue is. A licensed counselor, especially one who is an experienced life coach can help you.

Establish your goals.

*make sure to define your goals as clearly as possible

*make a to-do list

*Prioritize tasks based on how important they are to the finished goal

*Break large and overwhelming tasks into small and actionable pieces

* Set short term deadlines for yourself on your way to your final goals

*Identify when you’re most and least productive and schedule your tasks accordingly

*Reward yourself when you reach a goal

*Focus on your goals instead of on the tasks that you must do to get there

*Imagine how great it will feel to experience the outcomes of your work

*Avoid a perfectionist mindset, nothing and no one is perfect. And remember we learn from mistakes

What works for me is to pick one thing, one task and do it till its done, finished. If I get distracted it’s all over.

Also, If I know that one big ‘thing’ will take a long time, days or weeks even, I break it up into timed segments. That way I am still working on it, I have a deadline, and I can still break away to go fold laundry.

And Breathe…. you knew I was going to say that didn’t you? 🙂 But it does help.

Breathing on purpose, taking slow deep breaths when faced with any problem can help you to focus. Taking Breathing Breaks can give you time to clear your mind and release any stress that might have come crept into your shoulders and neck. Breathwork, Pranayama in Yoga, can bring clarity to your thoughts and help to relieve anxiety.

So, what are somethings you want to do during this time of isolation? Learn to make pasta? Improve you putting game? Finish the puzzle you started over Christmas?

The greatest thief this world has ever produced is procrastination, and he is still at large.

Josh Billings

Om Shanti

Cheryl

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Planning ahead, looking back

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We’ve all seen the posts on social media about whether someone is a Autumn person or spring or summer … you know the ones I mean! Well in my much younger days I thought of myself as an Autumn kinda girl. I Loved the crisp weather, cute sweaters and boots, but dammit I Love summer too, I will always cherish the warmth of the sun on my skin. And let’s be really honest we all like winter at least a little. If nothing else, it helps us to appreciate the return of spring. And come on, Spring is nice too, the new flowers beginning to bud and fresh greens from the garden, the return of longer days and brighter sun.

So I’ve decided that I don’t have a special season, a time of the year I welcome more than the others and I don’t want one. I much prefer the transitions.

I love to watch the winter slowly get brighter as the days slowly get longer. I particularly love as the summer starts to cool; the days are still warm, but the nights have are cool enough to remind you that winter is coming (a wink to other GOT fans). Have you ever noticed how during the transitions between the season there always seems to be more air movement, more breeze? I think I love the wind on my face even more than the sun…Maybe? The winds of change I suppose.

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Like the transitions during a yoga practice the transitions throughout the year can often times be more important than the season itself. During the transition from winter to spring my thoughts go towards digging into mother earth to plant fresh new life. The transition from summer to fall finds me cleaning and organizing my home and for work I spend time making plans for the new year that is only a few months away. And of course, autumn into winter is filled with holiday plans and plans for your new year’s resolutions.

As you look back at this last year in your rear-view mirror, what transitions or seasons stand out for you? And what plans if any are you making for the year to come?

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Remember that what we see in the rear-view mirror shouldn’t be judged but observed. What lessons did you learn? What expectations were you able to let go of?

Of course, looking forward through the windshield can sometimes seem so broad that the future can feel overwhelming. What can you do to make your plans for next year more “do able” and less overwhelming? By starting now to plan ahead we can have more control as we move forward with life.

Embrace the change, learn from the experiences of from your past and then move forward. Carl Jung said, “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.”  Become…..

Om Shanti

Cheryl

Be you’re own teacher

“When you are ready to see it you will see it” … “When you are ready to find it it will be in front of you”

Two simple things I say a lot to my students. Yoga has a similar phrase that goes something like this

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That phrase has been attributed to Buddhism and several other Philosophies and great teachers, but no matter its origin it has merit.

It can be taken in its literal form to mean that when you are ready to learn something then a teacher, an actual person will appear in your life.

Say for example that you’re thinking of taking up hiking, you’ve never been hiking, and walking in your neighborhood doesn’t count unless you live in a national forest.

But you’ve been to the park and you liked that and now you’re ready for more and then Boom, you meet someone at your Zumba class who hikes all the time and she invites you to head out up to some cool trails on the AT for a day hike and there you go. Hiking.

You were ready and a teacher appeared.

But experience has taught me that its rarely the external teacher that appears the most often, more the internal one that shows up unexpectedly.

I have a client that has some knee issues and while she is very strong and her practice has evolved so beautifully in the year we have been working together, one of her knees has been a bit slower in gaining strength. A few weeks ago, I re-introduced a movement pattern, in a different way, and she was apprehensive about doing it, but tried it anyway. It was a very simple (or so it seemed) movement but it allowed her knee to move differently and now that knee is getting stronger, even faster than it was before. And she asked me why we hadn’t been doing it from the beginning, the simple answer was she wasn’t ready. Physically her body didn’t have the strength and mentally she was still protecting the knee. The more complex answer was that since she wasn’t ready the teacher wasn’t there. She wasn’t ready to see it and so she couldn’t. It was a pattern we had tried before, just in a different way, but now she was ready, and she could see it. She was her teacher here, not me. She had to make the decision to try and she had to overcome the fear of the movement and she had to step up and step out and try.

We are all like that, there are times in our lives when we must step up, step out and face our challenges and when we are ready to do that our inner teacher shows up.

I have had students and private clients over the years who have experienced this with their yoga practice. After months (or years) of practicing they suddenly have a breakthrough in a pose. Where they couldn’t even conceive of sitting in prayer squat pose a few years ago. Suddenly in a class they try and find it more accessible than they ever imagined.

Why? Why now? What changed?

The mat is the same, the sequence is the same, hell even the teacher was the same, Me! Maybe what changed was something inside themselves. Their confidence level or their understanding of the anatomy of the movement or maybe their courage to try new things changed.

What ever the reason, they were ready, and they made the effort to change. They were their own teacher.

Remember this when life gets frustrating, when you’re in a situation that feels impossible or at the very least more challenging than you expected. Know that perhaps you are still within the lesson, you’re still learning and that someday you will be able to recognize the value of that lesson. 20/20 hindsight right!

When the student is ready the master will appear. Be your own teacher, learn to recognize when you are ready and then call on the master within yourself.

Om Shanti

Cheryl